From the Heart


 It is your heart that gives your words their meaning.  Someone with a pure heart produces good fruit — good kingdom deeds and kind, lovely, powerful words season after season.  –Matthew 12

The Kid with Brown Hair

I always wanted to be one of the popular kids. I watched the popular girls closely enough to know exactly what it would take: I needed Guess Jeans, a jean jacket, and a couple of Izod shirts to layer on top of each other. A Swatch watch, straight blond hair and parents who would let me stay out late wouldn’t hurt, either. But none of that ever came together. In the end, I was happy enough to be the kid who got along with everyone and who quietly went about her business.   

As I got older, I realized that changing how I looked in order to be popular probably wasn’t going to fit my genuine interests and gifts (I played the pipe organ and loved algebra, after all). And a funny thing happened. As I got more comfortable in my own skin, other people got more comfortable with me, too. As I became secure enough to show people my heart, they wanted to be part of my life. And I’m still a work in progress – still learning who I am and how to live it out.

There is an attractive beauty that clings to people who are authentically themselves. We’re attracted by their quiet confidence. We’re attracted by their joyful clarity about life. We’re attracted by their kindness and generosity; because they’re secure in themselves, they can pour themselves out for other people. We want to be like them.

The same can be said for churches. Of course we want to be the popular church.  We want the big youth group. We want to be known in the community for our effective service and outreach. We want to be respected and admired because we’re growing and affluent. And churches are like people: you can change what the program and worship looks like, but it is what’s on the inside that really matters.  Churches that know who they are and are confidently living into it will have an attractive beauty that others want to be part of.

Here’s the attractive beauty that I think people are starving for: people these days, just like in Jesus’ time, are dying to be loved and to be taught how to love.  People are starving for others who have gone to the deep places of faith and who can guide them there, too. People are parched for authentic community, where they and their kids are loved and treasured, even when they’re a mess. People are aching for opportunities to pour their hearts, their energy, and their resources into the world, where they can die to themselves and really change the world. Churches that have these three: deep, joyful connection with God, compassionate love for each other, and challenging and rewarding service in the world, will be the churches with that attractive beauty that calls people home.

Rock On!

I see rocks. My son Jack sees beauty. He picks them up, handfulls of them, and puts them in his pocket. We have bags of rocks around the house. Because, at least when it comes to rocks, he has the ability to look beyond the visible to see more.

Does he see a greater reality or does he create a new reality? I think either is a great way to live.

The End is Nigh?

As you’ve probably heard by now, today is supposed to be the beginning of the end. According to this group’s calculations, today the end of the world is supposed to be ushered in.

It seems that it’s easier to to believe that God will be coming than it is to believe that God is already here, now.

What happens when the end doesn’t come? Does it mean that God isn’t here?

No. God is here and has been all along. What in our lives keeps us from seeing that?

Look past the shaky predictions about the end to see that the future is now.

Stand In

Jesus is here. And he is saying, “You’re going to represent me today. When people look at you, they will see me.”

Your encounter with people will profoundly shape how they view Jesus.

Does that leave you thinking, “Ugh, that means I have to do…”?

What’s in the blank?

Commit to doing that.

Why do so many great ideas come to us in the shower?

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Because we have time. We’re not distracted. We don’t need brain power for 5, 10, 20 minutes. We have time to be alone with our thoughts, with the Muse, the Holy Spirit. And we have time to listen, to hear what the Spirit is saying.

The trick now is to build that time into our day.

Rhythm.

Someone once asked Somerset Maugham if he wrote on a schedule or only when struck by inspiration. “I write only when inspiration strikes,” he replied. “Fortunately it strikes every morning at nine o’clock sharp.” (In Steven Pressfield, The War of Art)

Make time for inspiration.

Where Are Your Priorities?

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What does getting ahead look like to you? How do you prioritize? How do you decide on what to spend resources, your money, your time, your energy?

Are you, for example, feeling overwhelmed and exhausted by spending all your time and energy focused on a financial reward? Maybe it’s in a job you hate, that sucks the life from you. Is your emotional health and your physical health being negatively impacted because of it? Are your relationships being sacrificed because of it? If so, you’re not investing for a healthy return.

Let’s use a 3DM lens and look at Jesus’ investment strategy (seen in how he lived his life and illustrated in parables like these: Parable of the Talents, Matthew 25.14ff; Treasure Hidden in Field Matthew 13.44; and Pearl of Great Price Matthew 13.45).

The strategy is to invest (tend, steward) the capitals (resources, talents) we have in order to receive a return of the capitals we want. If you want to attain any one capital, you must learn to invest the other four.

It’s about priorities.

God entrusts us with resources (capitals) and urges us to steward them in such a way that we receive an increased return on God’s investments. And when I say kingdom return, I don’t mean a heavenly reward only after you die. I mean a heavenly reward in the present. God’s kingdom is breaking into ours right now!

Here are the Five Capitals (they’re kin to these).

  1. Spiritual • Experiencing the freedom and fullness of life, living in right relationship with God and representing him well. When people look at you, do they see Jesus?
  2. Relational • The ability to make withdrawals based on the deposits you’ve made. Investing in relationships. The trust others have for you. Are your relationships healthy?
  3. Physical • Health and well-being; Time and energy; Emotional Health; What are your physical resources? What’s your physical capacity?
  4. Intellectual • How much do you know? Skills.
  5. Financial • Your financial resources, money and assets.

Each capital is ten times more valuable than the one below it. Thus, spiritual capital is 100,000 times more valuable than financial capital.

Do you have your priorities in order? Are you investing the lower capitals in order to receive a higher return? Or, are you squandering your higher capitals in order to receive less?

Leaders Define Culture

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Every member of a system influences how the system functions. But, it is the leader who has the most influence on the culture of the organization. Whether it is a congregation or a business or a family, leaders define culture.

Leaders are effective not because they have lots of skills (though they might), but because of who they are.

Effective leaders do not impose culture. They do not tell other people what to think. They do not spend a lot of (wasted) time and energy trying to convince people to agree with them.

Instead they spend their time and energy gaining clarity about what they themselves believe. They have a vision they are committed to living out (whether people follow them or not).

Effective leaders do not spend a lot of (wasted) time and energy trying to get other people to behave as the leader wants them to behave.

Instead, flowing from their clarity of vision, they spend their time and energy choosing for themselves how to act and how to react (rather than getting caught up in the anxiety of the system). Their actions flow from their beliefs, their attitude, their Spirit. Who they are – their identity – is clear. Their doing flows from their being.

Doing flows from being for ineffective leaders, too.

Ineffective leaders are unclear about what they believe (or aren’t as clear as they could be). They don’t have a clear vision that is guiding them. Ineffective leaders fail to see they have a choice in how to act and react. Ineffective leaders readily get caught up in and take on the anxiety of others. Ineffective leaders look to others for their identity.

If you want an anxious system, be an anxious leader.

If you want an apathetic system, be an apathetic leader.

If you want an organization that is scared about the future, be a leader who is scared about the future.

If you want a congregation full of disciples, be one who is a disciple and who disciples others.

If you want a healthy system, be a healthy leader.

It should be noted, in systems that are committed to being anxious, or apathetic, or unhealthy, it is possible to add a healthy leader and not see an improvement in the health of the system. It is not, however, because the leader has had no impact. It is because the system has reacted to the presence of the leader by resisting. The point I am making about leadership is that it is impossible for a system to function in a healthy way with an unhealthy leader.

Do you want your family, your organization to be a certain way? Be the leader it needs.

Though, that’s not entirely true for me. “The parts that aren’t” interest me in that it’s fascinating to see people ignore — or miss — the change that is happening all around us.

Click the picture for the artist’s thoughts on this.